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枫下拾英 / 心情随笔 / 我很痛苦，只想劳工自己养活自己，真的这麽难吗？
-guest:;
2001-5-17
(#74188@0)
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Yes. Before I got my job, my wife had the same feeling. Give him some time and your support, please.
-rollor(Rollor);
2001-5-17
(#74190@0)
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我的支持已经超过了4年,(包括来加前)我们来加已经半年,如果找不到工作,我会毫无怨言,但是每份工作都不超过5天,每次如此,难道我的就不辛苦吗?
-guest:guest;
2001-5-18
(#74206@0)
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什么工作，什么原因干不了5天？
-guest:;
2001-5-18
(#74220@0)
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对.慢慢说, 别着急.
-rollor(Rollor);
2001-5-18
(#74221@0)
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我的故事
-guest:guest;
2001-5-18
{1585}
(#74292@0)
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对你深表同情，对于这种老公，我觉得，还是。。。分手比较好
-guest:;
2001-5-18
(#74296@0)
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1, MAN should run the family;
2. make a realistic goal for him, what was HIS goal for immi?
-guest:guest;
2001-5-18
(#74301@0)
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he said in china can't see any hope.want to change in another place.the another reason is for my son.
-guest:guest;
2001-5-18
(#74337@0)
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nothing wrong with that, BUT, after landing, and after seeing everything surrounded,you2 ofcourse, expecially HE, should adjust toward the new change. what he has promised in china possibly is not realistic any longer, he MUST change,
no one can zuo chi shan kong, i think you2 need a very frank talk and arrangement, ur hubby need to work hard---at least do all housework at home. good luck
-guest:guest;
2001-5-18
{313}
(#74353@0)
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可以理解你,也可以理解你劳工.我觉得你比你劳工强,所以他也就有依赖思想,如果你把他推上领导岗位,凡事让他出头,或许可以唤醒他的责任,变被动为自觉,最好是分开,但是对夫妻感情又不好.40岁的男人也不容易,我想他也不想这样.忍不是办法,多交流一下吧.
-gg996(gg);
2001-5-18
(#74303@0)
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My sympathy to you ...I am from GZ too. Is your husband from GZ? What a jerk. If he were my brother in law I am going beat him up. Believe me, I understand how you feel because I have a little sister. However, a 40-year-old man is hard to change. I agree with gg's post. You need to sit back and "relax", push him to the front line.
-gwtw(飘);
2001-5-18
{313}
(#74466@0)
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你的妹妹也是相同情况吗?她怎麽办?
-guest:guest;
2001-5-18
(#75235@0)
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No, not the same case. But she had a boyfriend who looked like a jerk. They eventually broke up because of me and my sis is still single to this day. Sometimes I feel guilty, and promise myself not to intervene any more.
-gwtw(飘);
2001-5-21
(#77127@0)
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我见过有的夫妇, 男的尝试过在加拿大工作, 不成功. 但他们有一些小钱, 后来开了一个杂货铺, 女的继续出去工作, 男的很安心地在家看铺子, 照顾孩子. 收入也还稳定.
-albxu(Yukon);
2001-5-18
(#74702@0)
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这主意不错。
-rollor(Rollor);
2001-5-18
(#74738@0)
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thanks ! i will think about it!
-guest:guest;
2001-5-18
(#75267@0)
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Mrs Guess, if you are really interested in this idea you may want to think about moving to Montreal, the French city. I have lived in both Toronto and Montreal.
-gwtw(飘);
2001-5-21
{2066}
(#77169@0)
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飘,真是多谢你.现在我在广州,满地可是一个漂亮的地方,我对他也有一些认识,因我本来申请的是魁北克移民,所以,也有个大概的认识,但可能,现阶段,我会先不考虑,因,刚对TORONTO有DD熟悉,我并不想做太快的转变.
你的帖子,给我一种很亲切的感觉.谢谢你.
-guest:guest;
2001-5-22
(#78018@0)
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I thought you were in Toronto. Anyway, I am happy you find my posts helpful and as usual wish you the very best. Enjoy the delicious dim-sum in GZ.
-gwtw(飘);
2001-5-22
(#78043@0)
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thanks.do you mind give me you e-mail address?if possible post here.thanks.
-guest:guest;
2001-5-22
(#78284@0)
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I create a temp email account as gonewiththewind2001@excite.com
But I don't check it very oftenly. There could be some delay. Take care.
-gwtw(飘);
2001-5-23
(#78747@0)
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Sorry, the email address should be: gonewiththewind20001@excite.com
A typo, bad mood today.
-gwtw(飘);
2001-5-23
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难啊。我见过他这样的男人，也见过你这样的女人。事实上，这样的男人女人有很多，只是你们两个人可能有点极端。他竟然连面工都要由你陪着，可见对你有多依赖。还有，学不好英语可能跟年龄等因素有关。如果我是你的话：
-rollor(Rollor);
2001-5-18
{604}
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Rollor is always a good listener and good friend to talk with.
-bloor(不算太老);
2001-5-18
(#74743@0)
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Agree
-pasu(InTheSky);
2001-5-18
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哎,早知今日,何必当初.
-cctvtom(浪翻云);
2001-5-18
(#74717@0)
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早离早好,让他去YONGE街要饭去!
-judy_an(judy);
2001-5-18
(#74824@0)
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说句实在话：你太天真了，俗话说：狗改不了吃屎！好习惯是养成的（难），坏习惯是学来的（易）
-guest:农夫;
2001-5-18
(#74862@0)
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炒老公鱿鱼，他不想养活都难了。
-bbq(烧烤酱);
2001-5-18
(#75084@0)
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离
-ted(finger);
2001-5-24
(#79854@0)
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我很瘦，但是不怕吃苦。要是找不到工作，有没有适合的劳工？
-dongwil(金字塔);
2001-5-18
(#74227@0)
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你想做替补？
-guest:;
2001-5-18
(#74255@0)
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他（她）没搞明白“劳工”的意思。
-iamfish(笨笨鱼);
2001-5-18
(#74362@0)
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劳工是什么意思？
-dongwil(金字塔);
2001-5-18
(#74396@0)
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可怜... 告诉你吧！劳工=老公 ... 你得明白？
-maladuona(马拉多纳);
2001-5-18
(#74406@0)
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HA HA HA HA HA..........Why post a brannigan between coulple here?
-dongwil(金字塔);
2001-5-18
(#74470@0)
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By the way, can you explain me what is FB all you often mention?
-dongwil(金字塔);
2001-5-18
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FB=腐败=相互扶助，永不言败！！！
-maladuona(马拉多纳);
2001-5-18
(#74496@0)
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Fabulous
-bloor(不算太老);
2001-5-18
(#74699@0)
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Thank you!!
-dongwil(金字塔);
2001-5-18
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Wonderful!!!
-pasu(InTheSky);
2001-5-18
(#74815@0)
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跟他说你想分手,看他怎么办? 不过不是真要分手,只是逼逼他.
-mmyong(花落满途);
2001-5-18
(#74844@0)
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宁教人打仔，莫教人分妻阿！善哉善哉。GUEST夫人，再给点耐性，千年修得同枕眠嘛。况且还有您的儿子呢。祝福您！
-zurg(zurg);
2001-5-18
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you're only 30, still very young.
-guest:and everything else;
2001-5-18
{576}
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这叫什么意见呀？每个人生活方式不同，20岁结婚22岁生孩子很正常，很幸福。任何家庭，结婚几年之后，夫妻间都会产生很多矛盾。说句不好听的，男人玩女人有玩腻的时候，女人看男人也有看烦的一天。要正确处理夫妻矛盾，而不能一不耐烦就离婚。
-rollor(Rollor);
2001-5-18
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20岁结婚22岁生孩子很正常? not many in this day and age...，很幸福?
I doubt after I read the story. ^_* Good at sex
-guest:and everything else;
2001-5-18
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真的不太幸福.20岁的我完全没有任何的考虑.假如可以重新来过.我会考虑晚婚.我周围有很多同学,同事.还没有结婚,甚至不考虑结婚.过者我想过的生活.我真的很羡慕.但只能羡慕而已.我有我至爱的儿子.我要给他一个完整的家.
-guest:guest;
2001-5-18
(#75264@0)
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离婚的念头我不是没有想过.结婚以来.我一直有进修,想法不断有所改变,而他一直如此,没有多大的变化,我们的处事方法,做人的目标有了越来越大的分歧.经济的原因一直不是我认为的主要原因.(这是来加前)
-guest:guest;
2001-5-18
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(#75234@0)
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sigh!, zhen shi nan wei ni! looks like he is not purely a hao-yi-wu-lao type, just too clumsy, :-) an you appear to be a good wife;maybe he is really not used to this style, that you focus on your study is one thing, but to push him (even harder) is necessary too. i maintain that as a husband, to shoulder the family support is one's resposibility, i place no blame on him, but it is indisputable too that he needs to work very hard.
salute to you
-guest:guest;
2001-5-18
{325}
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在国营企业工作这么长时间的人，如果再没有过硬的专业水平，来加等于提早进入坟墓。。这里没有救世主。所有的事情只有靠自己，每个人都为生计而奋斗。只有不懈地努力，才会有所收获。生命是短暂的，珍惜每一天的快乐，独立地生活，每个人只为自己的行为负责。希望能读懂我的言外之意
-barbecue(bar);
2001-5-18
{182}
(#75289@0)
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真的很同情你。这样的丈夫要他干吗？废物一个！抄掉他算了！
-guest:XX;
2001-5-18
(#75353@0)
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家庭是夫妻双方都要为之付出的，即使你出得厅堂入得厨房，但是都要让他承担一些家里的事务，不出去工作就把家务都承担起来也是一个选择。劳工不是一个摆设，你放在那里不理他不能解决问题。
-mai_mai(麦麦);
2001-5-18
(#75384@0)
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我自己阅历尚浅，想不出什么好计，但觉得Rollor等朋友的建议非常实在。希望你以
后心烦的时候常来这里，不要一个人自己闷着。
-gwtw(飘);
2001-5-21
(#77144@0)
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Try to be patient with your husband.Your husband need your help especially in hard time
-wendywendy(wind);
2001-5-18
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View it with plain heart,that is,as if you are a single now! By the way, what is your job now?
-bluemoon(bluemoon);
2001-5-18
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看来你们是有一定的钱（刚来就买房子），我的建议是再买一个house，做移民旅馆。让你的劳工去坐坐管理工作。正好发挥特长。还可以干干移民接送什么的。40岁的男人，要改变不容易。尤其是舒服惯了。
-macsym(日进斗斤);
2001-5-18
(#75366@0)
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This sounds like a good idea. My suggestion is not to buy another house NOW. You already have a house,right? Use it as a little hotel and see how the business goes. Buying another house is big big financial burden. What if things go wrong?
-gwtw(飘);
2001-5-21
(#77138@0)
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心平气静，换个角度想想。退一步海阔天空。珍稀两人的缘分。
-liubell(Bill);
2001-5-22
(#78055@0)